Suara.com – Enjoying time together when you already have children is certainly not easy, especially if you want to have sex. Parents must be more careful in determining the time and choosing a place so that children do not get caught.
Of course all parents do not want to be caught by their children while having sex. Not only embarrassing, children who accidentally catch their parents making love can also have an impact on their psychological condition.
Ikhsan Bella Persada, M. Psi., Psychologist through Klikdokter said that there are several impacts that can occur to children when they catch their parents having sex.
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For example, a child who is under three years old will think that his father is hurting his mother. In children aged 5 years will arouse curiosity and try to find out.
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Then children aged over 8 years through preadolescents will think their parents are doing something strange and/or disgusting.
Ikhsan also suggested things that parents should do if they are caught having sex with their children, such as the following:
1. Don’t Panic
If caught by a child while having sex, the first step that parents must take is to remain calm, and don’t panic. And avoid scolding children.
2. Apologize
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When the atmosphere is conducive and calm, start by apologizing to the child if he feels disturbed or uncomfortable.
Then ask how the child feels, if the child is old enough (preteen) don’t hesitate to ask questions about sex that he already knows.
3. Give an explanation according to the age of the child
Don’t cover up what happened to your child. After being caught by the child and the condition has calmed down, the parents provide as much explanation as possible according to the age of the child.
For example, for children under the age of 3, explain that mom and dad don’t hurt each other, but are enjoying their time together.
Meanwhile, for children aged 5 years and over, parents can explain this in terms of how babies are made. Then to children who are teenagers, convey the understanding that sex can only be done by couples who are officially married.
4. Explain Sex Education to Children
Give an explanation about understanding sex when the child feels comfortable, if the child still feels awkward, don’t force it first.
This is because sex education is important for children to know in order to have a healthy view of the reproductive organs and sexuality.
Avoid using other terms for intimate organs because it can make the child feel even more confused. Because there is still a lot of wrong information about sex circulating around children.
So it is important for parents to ensure that the understanding of sex in children according to their age is well controlled so as not to damage children’s perceptions of sex.
Shilvia Restu Dwicahyani
