Suara.com – Rachel Vennya shows off her portrait with her lover, Salim Nauderer on Instagram. Interestingly, in this post, the ex-husband of Niko Al Hakim alias Okin appears to have left comments in the form of emojis there.
In this post, the mother of two looks harmonious with Salim Nauderer wearing a navy blue dress. Rachel Vennya was seen embracing her lover who was sitting in front of her.
Even though they didn’t write any caption for the photo, netizens were busy actually focusing on the comments Okin left in the post. As if he had given his blessing and supported his ex-wife’s relationship with another man, he gave an emoji of three red hearts there.
Seeing this comment, Rachel replied. Instead, she asked her husband to go on a double date, aka a date with their respective partners.
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“Lezzgo double date?” Rachel Vennya replied to Okin’s comment.
Unfortunately, the fans of both of them still hope that Rachel and Okin can get back together for the sake of their two children, Xabiru and Chava. In fact, not a few who compare the compatibility between them.
It seems that this made Okin hot and expressed his frustration with netizens. He doesn’t like always being compared to a man who is close to his ex-wife.
“There’s no match. If Rachel has a boyfriend, you don’t have to compare it to me. And vice versa. I’m tired of being stuck like this for two years,” Okin said firmly.
As is known, Rachel Vennya and Okin officially divorced on January 20, 2021. Rachel Vennya and Salim Nauderer dated in the same year and broke up in mid-2022.
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“Sometimes I even hate Al-hakim’s ‘fans’ which is too much. I’d rather focus on people who support me from my works. Please continue to like Biru Chava but you don’t have to disturb his parents’ relationship,” he said.
In a divorce relationship, not a few people can easily accept when they find out that their ex-spouse has a new lover. Moreover, if there are already children between the two.
Rachel Vennya and Niko Al Hakim alias Okin celebrating their child’s birthday. (Instagram)
To be able to accept it like Okin, there are a number of things that need attention, to process our negative emotions in response to it. Here is the list as reported by Brides.
1. Feel Your Feelings
Seeing your ex with someone else might trigger hurt feelings, but that’s normal. That doesn’t mean you still love her, but you could still care. You may feel humiliated or sad that your ex was able to get over his relationship with you so quickly.
But trust me if it’s you, you might not be so sad because your ex has moved on. Trust me, the fact that they are dating has nothing to do with you.
2. Let Yourself Be Jealous
This goes hand in hand with feeling your emotions. However, while you may feel a little sad that your ex has a new girlfriend, you may be surprised or confused by the overwhelming feelings of jealousy.
You may feel jealous because your supposed partner is with someone else, and it feels like they’re cheating on you. On the other hand, you may feel jealous that they were able to move on before you.
3. Remember Why You Divorced
Breaking up with a serious partner or getting a divorce is generally not something couples do without much thought; You may have valid reasons for separating.
Keep these reasons in mind the next time you start to feel sad or jealous about your ex having someone else. Do you want them back? If the answer is no, remind yourself why.
Doing this every time you start to feel negative emotions about your ex and their new partner will help you come to terms with what’s going on—and maybe even help you move on, too.
4. Try to Forward
Something else to consider: Do you feel uncomfortable when your ex is dating other people because you’re still stuck in the past? If this has started to get to the annoying stage where it forces you to overthink every detail and is effectively ruining your day, take a step back and try to help yourself move forward.
The idea of ​​putting the past in the past may sound as scary as you should officially close the book you used to love. It’s the best way to remind yourself that you are the most important thing in your life, and you are the person you need to stay happy.
5. Know You Are Not Being Replaced
No matter how in love his new partner was with your ex, remind yourself that they are not trying to replace you or reproduce what you both had. Every relationship is different as it is perfectly tailored to the parties involved.
What you two have will always be unique to both of you. The most important thing to remember when dealing with your ex dating someone else is that this new relationship is not a reflection of you or your relationship.
6. Try to Be Happy for Your Ex
No matter how much conflict there was during the separation or divorce process, ask yourself if you really want your ex to be unhappy. Even if the immediate answer is yes, it may not be true deep down.
After all, you married them believing they were good people who deserve love and respect, right? Letting go is a process, and it will take time and effort to get there.
But when you do, you’ll probably realize that you want your ex to be happy—even if it means they’re happy with someone else.
