The love between you and your cat is of course unconditional and mutual. It doesn’t always seem like it though, because they can be quite grumpy at times and don’t always want to be cuddled. You may wonder what is going on in their heads. Fortunately, Anneleen Bru, author of the ‘I love happy cats’ books, has some handy tips for that. In her book she tells you how to communicate with your cats and how to show love in a way that they accept.
Step-by-step plan: cuddling cat
According to Anneleen Bru, it is important that you adjust your behavior when you interact with your cat. Especially if your cat is exhibiting unwanted behavior, it’s helpful to know how to show love in a way that she knows what to expect. She has written the following step-by-step plan for this:
Step 1:
Only interact with the cat if she takes the initiative.
Step 2:
Give “cat kisses” by gently closing your eyes and try to avoid looking into your cat’s eyes as much as possible.
Step 3:
Experiment with how and with what your cat likes to be petted.
Step 4:
Sit or lie down on the floor yourself – or at least at eye level – to interact with your cat.
Step 5:
Instead of always wanting to touch her, talk to her.
Step 6:
If your cat gives you cups, it doesn’t always mean that she wants to be touched by you right away. She may want to give you cups, but that doesn’t mean she always expects the same in return.
Step 7:
If your cat comes to lie or sit near you with her head turned towards you, she is showing that she loves you. This is her way of hugging.
Step 8:
Don’t give too many real kisses. When you get very close to your cat with your big eyes and mouth, it doesn’t feel natural to her. Of course, your cat’s association with your body may change over time, but be careful.
Step 9:
Sit down and turn your back halfway to the cat. For her, this is a very safe way to approach you.
