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Hello. I have been with my husband for almost 10 years. His family has meddled in all sorts of ways in our lives, from opening mail to badmouthing our children and making me a bad mother. He doesn’t stand on either side, but when I say something, he takes the side of the family, never defending me. Our relationship is bad. Early on, he said he would manage the accounts, today we are in debt and he blames me for everything, he makes comparisons to when he was single and he had money left over – but I don’t understand the comparisons, because life is today and he has two sons. I believe I have lost admiration for him because he is not my partner. He even neglects the chores I do at home and taking care of the children, and only his work is important. I want to know how I get out of this situation.
– No time bro
– Dude No time, brother
Only you can know if you have reached your limit within this marriage. Reasons for a breakup you apparently have plenty of. I find it hard to be married to someone who doesn’t stand by you when there’s little family bickering – and no, opening other people’s mail isn’t normal. If you decide to divorce, it’s important to repeatedly stress that he’s not going back to single life. As you said, that time has passed, and he has two children to raise. This includes financial expenses (make a point of demanding alimony), of course, but also presence. Either way, it’s good to start taking action to get you out of this relationship with as much support as possible. Explain your situation to your family and friends and start organizing the next chapter of your life.
Mine relationship was going very well, we had been together for 5 months. But in 15 days everything changed. My boyfriend was going to work three weeks in another state. So we arranged for him to sleep over the weekend at home. He sent a message that in an hour he was at my house. Out of nowhere, he disappeared. I was worried because nothing like this had ever happened. I thought an accident had happened. The other day, he said he went to pick up his mother at a party, and ended up staying there. I got furious, and I started ignoring him, and he kept apologizing. I’m not sorry, but we’re still together. The following week, we arranged to see each other, but he didn’t show up again. He sent a message hours later saying that he was packing his bags and that when he got back we would talk straight and everything would be fine. I, already annoyed with the whole situation, broke up with him. He still reached out to me a few times, but after a few harsh words I spoke, we didn’t talk anymore. Since then we haven’t exchanged a word. And it’s been harrowing. I think our relationship was weak, not being able to withstand even a headwind.
– Vanishing tea
– Missing Tea Guy
It is very strange that your boyfriend has changed from 5 months of stable relationship to two disappearances in a week. Unfortunately, it seems to me that he decided he didn’t want to be with you anymore, nor did he want to travel committed, but he didn’t have the courage to tell you. There is a special place reserved in hell for those who would rather disappear than give satisfaction. I can also see from your reaction that you are an impulsive person, who does not tolerate this type of insult. Taking all this into consideration, it remains to be seen that the two of you would hardly have worked out. I think you do well to be firm. It’s normal for you to regret it now, but believe me: there’s something better out there.
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