The question that entitles this text was so present in my life this past week, that I got annoyed. The second question, also this week, was whether my wedding or Lula’s would be the weddings of the year. Pff!
I honestly wasn’t too worried about following the preparations for the JanjaLula wedding, as I prefer to call it, because I really think that everyone takes care of their own pocket and how much they want to spend on their wedding. By the way, I saw some news about the cost of wines, sweets and even the bride’s dress. From the part I followed, I didn’t see anything absurd. After all, we have already followed articles about much more expensive weddings. But, for me, the big problem was about the pertinence of the coverage.
First, it is a private party and pays for the bride and groom’s own pocket. I truly believe that we should be concerned about how public spending is being carried out because, after all, these do come out of our pockets. For example, if we think of a city like São Paulo, with a homeless population that grows without stopping due to the economic crisis and that agonizes in the cold out of sheer neglect, since the city celebrates one of the largest cash reserves in the world. last years.
It’s not normal for people to freeze to death. And, by the way, it is not the cold that kills, but the lack of investment to guarantee healthy shelters and housing policy in the city. Folks, we have more idle properties, without fulfilling their social function, in the city of São Paulo than people living on the street. So, let’s agree that the problem is not a lack of housing, but a few profiting from speculation. So, I think it’s good to start there: what drives you to worry about spending, a private and private expense or a public one that concerns all of us?
Second, I kept thinking that a lot of people who were shocked by JanjaLula wedding values are very out of the wedding market in Brazil. Loves, the prices are absurd and almost impractical. I accompany groups of brides who literally turn around in their thirties to guarantee their parties because the amounts charged for decoration, the unit in the buffet, drinks, souvenirs and even table settings – which, look, in many cases need be returned to the party organizing company – are, I say again, absurd.
It’s not easy to get married in Brazil.
Third, how do we measure what a couple can and wants to invest in their day of highest celebration of love for each other? A party for more than 200 guests, in a closed place, which had to guarantee increased security, for a former head of state would not be so cheap.
And I would add a fourth question that I believe involves a bit of elitism on the part of some people. After all, how can a person of humble origin make a great marriage?
But what I really wanted to talk about, even if quickly, was how I found the flowers chosen by JanjaLula to be beautiful and how I simply LOVED the bride’s dress. Less for the model, as I don’t particularly like shoulders showing (but that’s my problem and clearly not hers) and more for the story around it. Guys, isn’t there anything more incredible than being able to tell you about your dress all sewn and embroidered by embroiderers from the most beautiful and heart of Brazil?
As the bride that I am, I was more interested in knowing JanjaLula’s choices that could inspire me. Like, for example, the souvenir of the guests that was an embroidery of the same embroiderers. Janja, I already want to imitate you!
I think more important than asking how much of a marriage was, is asking how much love there was in a marriage; how much affection and good energies there was in a marriage. This is one thing I see in marriage from left to right. How the bride was, how the bride and groom looked at each other, the emotion of the gifts, the exchange of promises between them, the prayers and prayers made and the joy of the revelry.
Marriage, in my view, is a moment of pure joy and love. The message that remains is that “love won”. And may love always win. Ever.
